Tuesday, 21 March 2017
The emails on the site continue to trickle in.
PC Plod messaged late one night to say that someone he was interested in has disappeared without explanation. His message is full of sad face emojis 😞. He says he was chatting to someone who he thought was the answer to all his emotions and concerns, only for them to disappear without any explanation. I'm relieved I didn't accept his suggestion to meet at my beach hut on Friday else I'd have been complicit in him double dating!
Instead I went into Agony Aunt mode and suggested that endless messaging wasn't a good idea and that I thought phonecalls were a better way of gauging someones authenticity, so he sent me his land line number! He'll have to wait.
Someone called friskyboy messaged a one liner which doesn't merit a reply. Nor does the message on the hoodie he is wearing in his profile pic which says Keep Calm and Stuff The Turkey. He's either been on the site a while or he is somewhat premature
I am however now enjoying chatting to Richard. Richard's profile says his personality is Humanist My profile says I'm Professional. Professional dater?
Richard is interesting, despite owning a ruddy red motorbike. He talks about his garden, and his family. He says he's funny and engaging and likes fireworks and thunderstorms, skiing and sailing. He sounds a good prospect for my Sydney Harbour Bridge climb, especially if we can time it at New Year
There is still no contact from the self-confessed idiot whose wife and partner took all his money and properties. But then I'm not expecting anything Not money. Not property. Nor contact.
So this evening I picked up the telephone and rang 999. I mean PC Plod. He sounded very nice indeed and told me about the mystery lady who caused him such a lot of sad emojis 😢
Apparently they had met, 3 times in all, the last time for a wedding which he invited her to. The following day she emailed to say he wasn't the right guy for her, then disappeared for a week before telephoning him to ask for a lift to Gatwick Airport. He refused, and has not heard from her since. I expressed horror, saying her behaviour gave genuine women a bad name, to which he replied that he is sure men are just as bad, and I suppose he is right.
He tells me he has been married twice, the second marriage lasted only 5 years. He didn't say how or why either ended, and I was too much of a lady to ask
As I had rung his landline using my dating mobile, I ended the call saying I would message him via the site with my number in case he wanted to stay in touch, which I did. He replied immediately saying he would text me this evening so that I have his, and, for a change, he added a happy emoji 😊
Over the weekend I decided to abandon my quest to find a +1 for my daughter's wedding in July. I have RSVP'd saying I will be attending alone. I'm happy with my decision. I really don't believe that even if I should meet someone now, it would be appropriate to take them along to a family event, as we simply wouldn't have known each other long enough to share such an intimate celebration. Something PC Plod knows all about
In other news, I had a surprise telephone call this morning from the owner of a London based Introduction Agency, following up my initial enquiry from a number of weeks ago which I had completely forgotten about after an interesting pop up appeared online. With a company name totally unrelated to it being an introduction agency, I was curious and clicked on to the website and realised this was a high class and discrete agency. With a milestone birthday in just six weeks time, this is my last ditch attempt and a present to myself.
While I don't mind living by myself, supporting myself, and going to events alone, there are times when it would be good to have someone to share really happy occasions such as the arrival of a new grandchild, family weddings etc. All the happy moments we will never have back but which are made better when shared with someone. But it needs to be the right person. The wrong person could spoil an event, or make it a non event.
So instead of renewing my subscriptions to the dating sites I am investing big time in myself by engaging an introduction broker. The lady who rang me this morning sounded extremely grand and has invited me to meet her at an equally grand hotel in central London in April for an initial consultation without any obligation.
Perhaps my lovely friend is right and the dating sites aren't the right place for me to meet someone. Its time for me to think outside the box.
I don't know what Agony Uncle will say, but its a blessed relief for me to know that I now have an excuse for not trawling the online sites until my fingers bleed..